If it’s meant to be it’s up to me, if it’s up to me it’s meant to be. - Football
What this expression means to me is if I want a certain result, I am responsible for making it happen. There is not a genie in a bottle baby. If I want to be mobile, or lean, or strong, or more knowledgeable on a subject or more skilled in a movement or a different state of being, I am going to have to work for it. There aren’t any excuses that change the fact that if you are skilled or unskilled at something it is either because you worked towards it or did not. It is not because it comes “naturally” to someone else or your genetics, or you can’t.
If you haven’t spent a lifetime in someone else’s shoes it is pretty disrespectful to say that their success at something is due to something other than work. Any time we give excuses such as they were lucky, they are gifted, and anything else along those lines, all we are doing is giving our power away. When you give away your power, you no longer have the feeling that it is within your control, no longer feel that it is up to you. It feels as though it is up to the ether. Keep your power.
It is best to think that someone is in their position because of something they could control. If they can control it, so can you, which means it is possible for you. Being optimistic and wrong is better than being pessimistic and right. Why not believe you can do it rather than never try. Worst-case scenario, you don’t succeed. Not the end of the world. If you are growing as a human and becoming a better version of yourself then it is highly likely that you are used to either winning or learning (not failing) anyway. Any time you don’t succeed it is not a failure unless you learned absolutely nothing from the experience which is impossible, there is always something to learn. Simply reiterating, it is better being optimistic and wrong than pessimistic and right. It is better to have tried than to have not tried at all. I am certain I am butchering these quotes but who cares, the point is still delivered swiftly. This is all coming from a guy who once won Most Pessimistic, trust me when I say it is not a fun way to live life.
If I want X Y or Z, I fully believe imma get it if it’s up to me. So let’s get it.